I don’t know about you, but this year seemed to have flown by really quickly for me. Perhaps every year has been going by way too quickly especially after I hit the big 3-0. *groans*
I remember the past year to be a really busy and tiring year for me juggling my blog and managing three kids with less help from my parents.
Before I know it, another year is coming to an end and I’m still trying to achieve some goals by the year’s end.
With the new year just around the corner, it’s time to make 2020 new year resolutions! If you have been repeating your resolutions year after year, perhaps it’s time to change them!
Here is a list of the best 2020 New Year Resolutions for moms!
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1. More “Me Time”
It is really easy to get lost in all busyness of taking care of kids, working, doing household chores and, running various errands.
For busy moms like us, we need to be intentional in setting aside time for ourselves! Nothing beats scheduling ‘me’ time into your daily planner!
It could be just a quiet 30-minute break to wind down while the baby naps or a 15-minute coffee break to catch your breath while the kids play on their own.
Find pockets of time through the day for deep-breathing relaxation exercises and to enjoy several moments of peace and quiet away from the kids.
These ‘me’ time moments will go a long way in your hectic day as a busy mom!
2. Sleep More
I know sleep is almost elusive especially for first-time moms with babies who need their attention even through the night.
Sometimes we just need to take a power nap while the baby naps and leave the chores for later.
It is also a good idea to get the kids to go to bed earlier. Earlier this year, I made it a point to get my kids earlier to bed. They were previously typically only in bed at around 9.30 pm. Sometimes they might take another hour to really settle down and finally fall asleep, which meant I could only be ‘free’ after 10:30 pm.
I have learned that my kids will never admit that they are tired or sleepy. But when I started sending all of them to bed earlier, between 8:30 pm to 9 pm, they fell asleep much earlier too.
That means I get to sleep earlier and more hours of sleep! Yay!
3. Yell Less
I have to admit — I’m a yelling mom. I totally need to learn to yell less at my kids. I have never been a very patient person and I think having kids have brought out the worst in me.
Sometimes I just get so frustrated over things getting out of my control or the kids are not following my instructions, and everyone seems to be asking me for something… then BOOM! I lose my temper and I raise my voice at my poor little children.
I’m definitely still working on yelling less and building a more peaceful home through positive parenting.
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4. Read More
These days, it is hard to see anyone walking around without a mobile device in their hands.
We have the world at our fingertips and scrolling and swiping through our social media feed can be very addictive. It could be a busy mom’s way to escape our hectic schedules when we finally have some time to ourselves.
But in the new year, instead of spending so much time on social media, how about we resolve to read more?
There are many informative books that are not only enriching for our minds but also for our souls.
I have loved reading ever since I was a young girl. Thankfully, my kids enjoy reading a lot too.
With so much time spent looking after my kids, sometimes I feel like I need to be intellectually stimulated in different ways, apart from the mundane household chores, doing crafts and playing games with my kids.
Books can help me gain new insights into life and learn new tips on parenting, motherhood, and spirituality. Sometimes it is simply reading exciting science fiction to bring me away from my stressful day as a busy mom.
Here is my book recommendation for all moms — “Unseen” by Sara Hagerty. It totally changed my perspective as a mom and brought me more joy even in the midst of mundane routines. I sure hope this will help you too!
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5. Slow Down
This is related to the new year resolution of yelling less. I have realized that if I don’t get so anxious in rushing my kids from one task to another, I reduce the chance of my raising my voice and barking like a mad dog. *heh*
Yea. I get it that moms are always so busy! But sometimes all it takes is for us to take a deep breath and slow down and the situation can really be better for everyone.
The kids don’t get so frantic and mess up in their haste, while us moms don’t have to get anxious or frustration!
Keep calm and slow down, mommy!
6. Take More Photos With Your Kids
I luurrvee taking pictures of my kids. This is most definitely propagated by the fact that our camera phone is always on hand to capture the most wonderful moments of our kids!
But in the coming year, instead of just taking photos of your kids, why not take more photos with your kids?
My photo gallery is flooded with photos of my three kiddos but it is hard to find photos with me in them.
I think as much as we would like to document the growth of our kids, we should also document our journey as parents!
We are only growing older with each passing day, so why not capture more youthful moments now?
No matter how old you are now, you are still beautiful and your kids would absolutely love to have more photos of themselves and you to look back fondly in the years to come.
7. Dress Up More
For Stay Home Moms, sometimes we find little need to dress up since nobody is really looking at us. Not to mention how sweaty and filthy we may get clearing up babies’ poop or puke.
Is there really a need to dress up even when we are home all day?
Dressing up and putting on some makeup can go a long way in making you feel so much better about yourself even in the midst of a busy, messy, hectic mom day!
More importantly, your husband would feel much better coming home to see a pleasant, fresh-faced wife, rather that one who is looking unkempt!
Not to forget, we intend to take more photos of ourselves with the kids! So don’t you want to look better in those pics? =)
So make this an important new year resolution to look better and feel better about yourself!
8. Exercise More
The wonders of breastfeeding have helped me lose my pregnancy weight after all three deliveries. Now that I have finally stopped nursing my daughter after 22 months and said my last goodbye to my breastfeeding journey, I can no longer eat as much and still keep those pounds off! *woe is me!*
So yep, I definitely need to work out more to keep fit and healthy!
It is easy to tell myself that I need to exercise more. But without actually planning it into my weekly schedule, many reasons (and excuses) can easily come up and prevent that from happening!
So plan it into your calendar, momma!
Bring your kids out for a jog to spend time together and still burn calories! Yippee!
9. Get Organized
I think many of us know that the secret to a productive day is to PLAN IT! So yea, I guess it ain’t really a secret after all.
The funny thing is, a lot of us are too busy to plan. Yet the truth is, when we put things into our schedule, it no longer becomes an ‘if‘ but a ‘when‘.
Whether you are a working mom or stay home mom, if you want to increase productivity, you need to get planning and organizing!
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10. Get Rid of “Mom Guilt”
Please repeat after me —
“I will not be bogged down by ‘Mom Guilt'”
Many of us have such high expectations of ourselves since the day our first child was born, or maybe when we first found out we were pregnant. Then when things don’t turn out as we wish them to be, we beat ourselves up for not having done better and wonder why we are such lousy moms.
Sure is to me!
In the new year, please be kinder to yourself, mommy friend, and get rid of that mom guilt!
If only we can look at ourselves through the eyes of our children, we would realize that we are actually awesome moms!
Our children think the world of us. So please don’t let mom guilt ruin your day or make you feel any less than you should.
Being a confident and self-assured mom is key to being a happy mom, which helps to nurture confident and happy kids, leads to a more peaceful home!
11. Give Thanks Every Day
It is a good practice to find something to give thanks for every day. It is part of our bedtime routine with the kids.
I told my boys that no matter how bad the day has been, we can always find one thing to give thanks for!
It helps to cultivate a sense of appreciation for even the smallest things in our lives and also to focus on the good stuff rather than the bad.
12. Highlight A Favorite Part Of Your Day
As part of the bedtime routine with my kids, everyone always shares what their favorite part of the day is. It helps us to reflect on the day’s events and highlights.
Even for a really typical day, my boys will find one event in the day to be their favorite.
This helps me understand their thoughts better and also allows me a chance to tell them how much I enjoyed doing a particular activity with them in the day.
It is very useful in etching in our minds wonderful memories!
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13. Hug Your Kids More
If you have a baby right now, you should know how much you hug and kiss your baby through the day! But somehow, as our kids grow up, the hugs and kisses seem to get lesser and lesser.
I have learned that the best way to diffuse tension is a big warm hug. Sometimes we get so upset that we just can’t seem to find the right words at the moment, a sincere hug most certainly does wonders.
Whether it is calming down angry kids after a fight with the siblings, or cooling off after losing my temper at them, a hug really helps to return calmness and peace in everyone.
Sometimes all it takes is a hug when your child expects it the least, to charge up his positive emotions bank, and reinforce your love for him.
14. Give Your Husband More Exclusive Time
The keyword here is “exclusive“.
All too often, I lose my patience at my husband because I have been so tired from caring for the kids the whole day. If I really count the hours that I have with my husband, it could only be about 1.5 hours each day! This is the time when the kids are finally asleep and we have each other to ourselves.
Many of us get so caught up with things to do around the house and checking off task after task on our to-do list, that we forget one very important ‘job’ as a wife — to give our husbands our complete attention and companionship.
Building a loving and long-lasting marriage takes hard work and intentionality every single day.
Just as we chose to marry our husbands out of all the other men that we know, we need to always choose to love him and care for him no matter how tiring our day already is.
It doesn’t matter if we only have 30 minutes or 1 hour of exclusive time with our husband, what matters most is to make the time count
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15. Pray More
Every pregnancy had been a faith journey for me. I have learned to submit myself unto the hands of God and just accept whatever gift of a child that He has bestowed upon me.
Being a mother has also brought out some of my ugliest sides, and I really believe that I could have sunk into a severe depression if not for my faith and a community of friends who support me in earnest prayer.
If you are a believer but have drifted away, it is probably time to get back to basics or prayer.
If you are a believer and also want your child to share your belief, one great way is to pray with and for your child.
If you have been praying so often for your husband and your children, don’t forget to pray for yourself!
16. Try Something New
As much as my home is always filled with much laughter and excitement thanks to my three rowdy kids, life can get rather boring when we get stuck in a mundane routine day after day.
I started blogging in February 2018 and it has really made my life more exciting.
Well, exciting not in a roller coaster ride kind of way, but exciting because I feel energized in learning new things every other day about this blogging business!
I have stayed up late after my husband and kids go to sleep to write my posts or to attend courses by other successful bloggers. It psyches me up that I am learning new skills like getting better at these IT and design stuff when I used to be a total tech idiot!
I sincerely urge you to try something new — attend a new course, pick up a new hobby or try a new activity! Even if you are a busy mom, there is still so much that you can learn, explore and discover about yourself!
17. Befriend A New Mom
It could be our neighbor, an old friend or someone we bump into while doing grocery shopping.
We all know how daunting life is as a new mom. No matter what stage of motherhood we are at, there is always someone in an earlier phase as compared to us.
There is so much that we can share with other moms, especially first-time moms. Just as many of us seek advice from more experienced moms, we can also, in turn, share our experiences and useful tips to other newer moms.
We should help to keep this positive cycle of encouragement and inspiration going so that more moms can benefit from a supportive community of moms who can totally relate to and understand their situation.
Why not befriend a new mom in this new year? Sometimes all it takes is to exchange messages on Whatsapp and that can provide the much-needed advice and emotional support to a new mom in need.
18. Mend Broken Relations
Sometimes relations with our family members and friends can suddenly turn sour over the smallest of issues. And because we are all so busy with our own lives, there could be little impetus to seek reconciliation with those whom we have offended or those who offended us.
At the end of the day, it really is about how important this particular person is to us. I suppose for all the shared history that we have with our long-time friends and the fact that we have blood relations with our family members, these are reasons enough for us to put in the effort to mend those broken relations.
Perhaps some relationships are not exactly broken, but just weakened and distanced.
If so, we can probably seek to improve these relations for a more positively-charged year ahead!
19. Stop Envying Other Moms
Social media can be such an awesome tool to stay connected with our friends and the rest of the world. Yet if our perspectives are not right, we can be sucked into a virtual world that is filled with half-truths that can ruin our emotional and psychological health.
So…. stop envying other moms!
In this new year, resolve to not get affected by other moms you see on social media. Block them out if what they post make you feel bad about yourselves.
I can’t stress how important this new year resolution is for moms!
Let social media be a positive tool and source of entertainment for you, but not a place to compare with other moms, degrade other users or feel bad about yourself of your life because of what you see about others
Remember, you can’t always believe what you see on the internet!
20. Schedule More Time With Your Bestie
As numbers in my age get larger, the circle of my friends gets smaller. It is easy for friends to grow distant when our lives change so drastically with different nature of work, different ideologies and different phases of life.
Friendships were definitely simpler when all we had to worry about was completing our school work, conspiring to skip lectures and gossiping about our silly crushes.
Forging friendships that last a lifetime also requires much intentionality.
In this new year, plan it in your schedule for regular meetups with your besties! Besties are great for the mommy soul. =)
So there you have it! 20 awesome and very important new year resolutions for wonderful and busy moms like you!
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